Sexual Assault and Rape Prevention

 

            I am a man and even though I have taught women self-defense for eons, I can never have the inner feelings or apprehension, and in many cases, down right fear that a women may possess concerning this topic. So in this case I will rely on the information provided by my wife who has been teaching this information, for almost all her adult life. She states “women can fight back”. A woman has nothing to lose by resisting; it might even save her life. If she submits and allows herself to be raped, the rapist may fear that he may be caught and punished. He just may decide that silence is his best protector and kill his victim. Sometimes his mind is made up ahead of time to kill.

 

            Too much has been said that women are the weaker sex and are not able to defend themselves against the stronger male. Women don’t have to be stronger than the attacker, what they really need is confidence and a superior attitude. A little knowledge of self defense against vulnerable male targets, and learn how to execute the techniques properly, and to do it under stress, “can allow a woman to have some measure of self-security”.

 

            Sexual assault is not usually motivated by sexual desire. It is a violent crime, a hostile attack, an attempt to hurt, humiliate, and control the victim. These assaults include both the actual use of force and the threat of force. Over 40% of all rapes occur in or near the victims own home, in what is normally considered safe places. All the safety guidelines laid down in the previous information concerning safety in the home, using the telephone in your car, walking, elevators, etc., also apply here. It would be valuable to re-read this section. Children are especially vulnerable because they are trusting, crave attention and fear punishment. This has also been discussed in this book, but I still want to repeat and add some needed information here.

 

            1.            Instruct your children to always inform you of where they are going, and with whom.

            2.            Again, teach them that no one has the right to touch their body.

            3.            Explain the differences between physical affection and physical abuse.

            4.            Teach your children not to keep secrets from you.

            5.            Check the background of your babysitter.

            6.            Teach children not to go anywhere with strangers or to accept gifts.

            7.            Instruct them not to open doors to strangers.

            8.            Teach them not to take shortcuts through alleys, dark streets, or wooded areas.

            9.            Tell them not to play in abandoned building or new construction sites.

           10.           If your child is going door to door for a school project, go with them and make sure all business is

                           conducted on the outside of the home.

           11.           Accompany your children to public restrooms and monitor the length of time that they are in there.

           12.           Don’t allow your young children to roam the local shopping malls by themselves.

           13.          Always talk to your children and allow them to come to you with personal problems.

                          Let them know that you will help them solve the problem.

           14.          Be alert for unspoken danger signals.

 

A.     Aversion to a relative, neighbor or friend.

B.     Change in eating habits.

C.     Sudden lack of interest in school.

D.     Sudden desires for privacy from family activity.

E.     Trouble sleeping, nightmares or bed wetting.

F.     Irritation of the genital areas.

G.     Signs of increased anxiety or immature behavior.

 

            If you suspect that your child has been sexually abused, report it to the police immediately. A child with physical injuries should see a doctor at once. Most child abusers are repeat offenders, and must not be allowed to strike again. They lurk around school grounds or hang around places children frequent. Be alert to any suspicious activity or people. If you as an adult are confronted with a sexual assault, try the following.

 

 1.     Try to calm the attacker down and talk him out of the attack.

 2.     Claim to be sick, pregnant, or have a disease such as VD or Aids.

 3.     Pretend that you are going to faint, or cry hysterically or act insane.

 4.     Tell the attacker that a friend is meeting you in a few minutes.

 5.     Run to safety if you can.

 6.     Scream and yell loud and often.

 7.     Fight like a tigress, rip, claw, bite, gouge and kick. Kick to the groin, poke the eyes,

        chop the throat, kick the knee, and best yet, grab the groin and squeeze long and hard.

        Carry keys in your hands or pocket and scrape them across attacker’s eyes. Chemical

        sprays may work at times, if you can get to it quickly.

 

 

            If you have been sexually assaulted, take the following measures.

 

            1.            Do not douche, change clothes, shower, or change your appearance.

            2.            Do not disturb the physical surrounding where the assault took place. It may contain valuable evidence.

            3.            Call the police immediately.

            4.            Get medical help as soon as possible.

            5.            Seek counseling by contacting your local rape crisis center or family doctor.

            6.            Information needed by the police.

 

                        A.           Description of a weapon, if one is used.

                        B.           Type of car, color, license number.

                        C.           Race of the attacker.

                        D.           Approximate age, weight and height.

                        E.           Hair color and length of hair.

                        F.           Color of eyes.

                        G.           Any unusual marks, scars, tattoo or jewelry.

                        H.           Pattern of speaking, accents, etc.

                        I.            Direction of escape.

 

            In conclusion, there are things you and your children can do to deter sexual assault, through education, training, prevention and determination. By reading this information and putting it into action, you lessen the chances of becoming a victim, and if an attack would occur, at least you have many options to choose from, while realizing that the assailant will have his hands full and that he probably chose the wrong person as his intended victim.

 

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